If you ask me what the most disgusting place is, I would say that it would be a hospital. My apologies to all the docs and aspiring doctors out there. I’m not biased. It is something I feel personally. Hospitals are where you see what it’s like to be in hell for a person.
Every Indian hospitals have their own way of showcasing the true culture of hospitals with people walking on crutches, laying on stretches with a saline next to them in the hall way due to bed shortage, disguising their pain with a simple smile and sometimes people screaming in pain with bleeds. To be honest, all of this makes me dizzy to even talk about since I’m intolerable to everything that happens there.
But I will share some of the most important lessons I’ve learnt in my entire four-day journey of staying in the hospitals.
The five fundamentals hospitals teach us:
- Family is everything
- Money is just a piece of paper
- Sympathy is more common than helping
- Doctors are the most daring creature
- The only place where we focus on one thing
Family is everything
Whatever you do, whether it’s good or bad, your family will always have your back in every situation. They sacrifice everything. Grandparents have sacrificed their resting time to tell you stories. They took you on a walk, pouring all their love, while your parents mostly sacrificed their sleep. Imagine how many sleepless nights they would have had because, as a baby, you didn’t like your parents resting after a long working day. Yet, they took you with a smile. And now, as an adult, you want them to rest, but they will not. The changes in your behaviour and habits give them sleepless nights, 20 years back you were crying, they were laughing, and now, after 20 years, they are crying while you are laughing.
Tell me, when was the last time you even gave a thought about your family? Or what if I asked you when the last time you thought about your friends was? You will answer this super quickly, right?. The only thing your parents want from you after you grow up is a little bit of your time, neither money nor the fame you earn . When you reach a certain point in your life, you either forget or completely exclude your parents from your circle. But please remember, they are the reason for what you are doing today. As a fact, your family includes only you, your parents, and your grandparents.
Money is just a piece of paper
Money can buy you anything, but not everything. Be true to yourselves. What would you buy if you were given a million dollars? How would you feel? Or what is first thing you would do after receiving the money? I know, after hearing one of these questions, you want to say, “Is this even a question?” Of course I feel happy, but for how long? Can money buy you happiness for the rest of your life? Nope, it doesn’t.
Money can put food on the table, buy you designer clothes and bags. It can bring you your dream cars and buildings. You can also corrupt people and everything except for two things, with health being first followed by happiness. You know, in the worst phase, money can not save a life. Money cannot provide you happiness because it only increases your greed to want more. Then why do you prefer money rather than anything else in this world, more than the precious thing, time? You know everything but still prefer money.
You work for money without knowing what time it is, but you forget the fact that you have a family to spend time with. Because money gives you status and security. Remember, money is just a piece of paper, but time is more valuable than money. You can get more money, but you can’t bring time back. Spend time with your family and loved ones since today’s people may not be tomorrow.
Sympathy is more common than helping
Nowadays, sympathy is more common than empathy. I cannot say all people are cruel, but people around you show sympathy for your misfortune. It’s because people think showing sympathy is a way of understanding the other person. But actually showing sympathy is an act of discouraging the other person to their knees. People sympathize, “Oh! I’m so sorry you have to go through all of this,” and they strongly believe they are providing hope. In reality, what the person needs the most at that time is empathy, not sympathy. He needs a solution to the problem he is going through.
If you show a desire to help that person, then why don’t you show empathy rather than sympathy? But first, to help, you should consider knowing him and his problem completely and then put yourself in his shoes and feel as if you are going through all of that as well. Now, this is when the magic comes to pass. You will help him out with the tool he desperately wanted, the solution.
People showing sympathy cannot give the exact solution. Sympathy is when you understand a person from your own perspective and share the feelings of another. Empathy is when you put yourself in the other person’s shoes and understand the feelings of another and you do not necessarily share them, instead, you search for a solution. So, what would do you do when you know a person is going through hard times? Show sympathy or empathy?
Doctors are the most daring creatures
Doctors are the most daring creatures/super heroes because they save lives. No one from other professions can ever do that. Have you ever wondered how does a doctor hands looks like after a 3 or 4-hour surgery? They look terrible. In recent times, as you all know, a deadly virus has taken some millions of people away. While everyone else was closing the doors to get away from the rest of the world, doctors were staying away from their families and risking their lives to serve the sick and to serve the world.
Healthcare may break our bank accounts. But the hard work behind a successful surgery is so unimaginable that only a doctor could understand. A few cases, such as a brain tumor, require a 8 to 9-hour surgery where a doctor will have to stand for the entire time and stay focused because a simple cut by mistake can toll the patient’s life. They courageously move forward to give a life without giving it a second thought. Not all soldiers may carry a gun to save the country, but every doctor will carry a stethoscope to save a life.
The only place where we focus on one thing
You run along with the world to cope with everything you have. As a busy person, you will have several things to focus on: a job, a family to feed, rent to pay for your house, etc. Being a responsible person, your thoughts are tangled just like how ropes are tangled when you put two or three together in an improper way. It is said that a person will have a lot of things to focus on, but it isn’t said that a person should focus on all of them at once. What I’m trying to say to you is to do smart work instead of multi-tasking.
I’ve always seen people rushing everywhere with a ton of thoughts in their heads, except in the hospitals. You will only focus on one issue, which is how to cure yourself or the patient, and the thoughts you get are all related to one thing. In routine, how would it be if you focused on one issue at a time and gave a second gap between the other thoughts? If you do so, you will feel more productive than ever before.