“Women” when this word comes around, what come first in mind? ‘MOTHER’ one who give birth and bring us to this world. In our society women are symbol of strength and prosperity. With changing world now women are helpless in our society. They start facing Problem, peoples in our treating them as object. Domestic Violence are very common in some parts of country. Dowry is one biggest reason for domestic violence.Dowry system is followed in India since a long time. Our ancestors started this system for some specific reasons but now it is leading to issues and problems in society.Dowry strengthening only one side of society, which lead to imbalance.
History Of Dowry
Dowry system has been started before British rule. In those days, society did not use to consider dowry as a “Money” or “Fee” you have to pay to be brides parents.
The main idea behind the dowry system was, to make sure the bride will be financially stable after getting married. The intentions were clear. Bride’s parents used to give money, land, assets to the bride as a “Gift” to make sure their daughter will be happy and independent after marriage.
But when British rule came to India, they restricted women to own any property. Women were not allowed to buy any property, land and assets. Hence, men started owning all “Gifts” given to the bride by their parents.
Parents started hating their daughters and wanted only sons due to dowry system. They started demanding money as dowry. Women were suppressed since they did not have equal rights as men in society. And since then, grooms parents follow this rule for their advantage.
Why the Dowry System Should be Stopped?
The new dowry system is creating problems in our society. Poor parents do not get any groom who will marry their daughter without taking a dowry. They have to take “Marriage Loans” and debt from landlords to get their daughter married.
Nowdays, Dowry is becoming a nightmare for Women and for their family. The cases of infanticide are increasing day by day. Poor parents do not have any other option than this. They cannot afford to have a girl child, and hence they are killing their infant girl. More than 8000 women are killed because of Dowry in India.
It is very clear that Dowry is creating violence. Groom’s parents are misusing this pure tradition and culture. And they are not aware that they are misusing it, because they are not educated about traditional dowry system. Everyone is just following the new dowry system blindly by seeing only own advantage.
Dowry is complete injustice with women and their family and does not give women equal status in society. Because of dowry mean will always be superior to women in society. This is creating a mess and negative environment in our society.
Under the Dowry Prohibition Act, taking or giving dowry is crime and illegal in various states like Bihar, Jharkhand etc. If you see someone taking or giving dowry then you should lodge a complaint against them.
Dowry system is good unless and until it is considered as gift given to the bride by her parents. If the groom’s parents are demanding money to get married as a “Dowry” then it is completely wrong.
SEO – Madhuri Chauhan