WHAT IS TOXIC PARENTING?
When we think of the word “Toxic” the meaning that comes to our mind is something which is ravaging to both mental and physical health of a person. And the sad truth is any relationship which is toxic can damage an individual. Or it can even lead that person to self-harm.
Speaking of “Toxic Parenting” it’s a topic which people don’t talk much about, since it’s very disrespectful to the society. Ironically, when we talk about kids being harassed and tortured by their narcissist and abusive parents, it is considered disrespectful towards the society.
KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
All parents make mistakes in upbringing and nobody can be perfect. But there is a difference between making mistakes and repeating their abusive behaviour. The pattern of abusive behaviour towards children can lead to a toxic environment inside the house. It can cause severe damage to the minds of young individuals.
FORMS OF ABUSE AND ABUSIVE BEHAVIOURAL PATTERN
Abuse doesn’t come in one form but in different forms. For example: verbal abuse, demotivation, comparing, manipulating, gaslighting, publicly shaming, neglecting, browbeating etc.
And it can even become worse since most states recognized cases of parental abuse. For instance: physical abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse, bullying, threats of killing by using some sort of weapons, putting fake allegations in order to put them in a guilt or threat. These damages can linger later in life, too.
“Some people play victims of crimes they committed.”
MISTREATMENT IN THE NAME OF LOVE
The definition of love according to toxic parents is different from the others. It doesn’t involve encouragement, nourishing, understanding, freedom, care and comfort of children.
But it only involves toxicity, they do extremely unloving things in the name of love. Which is how they cause great emotional damage as well as physical damage in some cases. Millions of lives are damaged by the legacy of parental abuse.
“Toxic parents come in many shapes. Some are so obvious that they can be spotted from space through the eye of a needle. Some are a bit more subtle, all are destructive.”
For them all come under the banner of neglect or abuse.
INSOLUBLE DILLEMA OF OUR COUNTRY
Our country faces crazy dilemma when it comes to mental health and suicidal issues. Everyone talks about how parents get abused by their children, which is true. But what is wrong is when the youth started sharing their traumatic experiences it became a huge issue.
The society blamed it on children and how they have become cheeky. This is the utmost cause because nobody wants to listen or talk about the problem which leads an individual to take some steps, and cause distress to oneself.
Toxic parenting is a topic minimum people discuss about. We too adjust ourselves in the abusive environment and call it love. It’s very important as a society to not to normalize it. Yes, they are our parents we should respect them and love them. But it’s also okay to protest against the things which aren’t good.
As I have mentioned before that these damages can affect the future of many. Not just one family but it can get diversified and can cause huge trouble to other family members also. It can also be inherited.
BREAK THE PATTERN!
If someone will grow up ignoring their own wants and needs to please their parents, they will automatically do the same for others too. This will motivate other people to take undue advantage.
It is okay to be a black sheep of the family. Have the courage to tell the truth and speak up against injustice. Deciding that unhealthy family patterns would end with you, and would not be passed on to future generations is an extremely brave and necessary decision.
Speak up! Either you’ll break it or carry it.